‘You believed in Santa Claus for like 8 years… You Can believe in yourself today’
I am someone who is fiercely determined, when I decide I am going to achieve something I put my all into it. Not a character trait I’m ashamed of and one that has served me pretty well over the years but one that has also led me to isolated independence and a destructive stubbornness.
I’ve always been pretty hard on myself but over the last few years I’ve learnt how to embrace my shortcomings (weaknesses/ failings….pick a synonym) and use them to build a better me. Whether this has been challenging existing habits (see Better Than Before), redefining my goals or asking for help; I’ve learned that acknowledging that which holds me back was the key to moving me forward.
So with that proclamation of ‘I’m not as perfect as I thought I was’, here are my DIY tips for building a better you:
‘’Preparation is the key to success’’. We’ve all heard this because it’s true! GET YOUR S**T TOGETHER, you can’t pursue self-improvement if you can’t find your other shoe. Whether its diary/time management, food prep, even picking an outfit out the night before; effective planning and organising your resources can be the difference between success and failure!
Figure out what this ‘better you’ is. Is this about delivering your job better? Promotion? Getting fitter? Losing weight? For me the key to goals setting it absolutely about defining where you want to get to, but also mapping your journey and creating ‘checkpoint goals’. No one ever turned up to a marathon without first completing a fun run and it’s these small wins that keep us focused and positive when the ‘landmark goal’ feels unobtainable.
Acknowledge your limitations
No one on this earth knows it all, has seen it all or done it all. Learning and developing is what makes our journey so rewarding and it requires facing the unknown and doing something you haven’t yet done. So accept that which you lack and focus on filling those gaps even if that means asking for help.
The first time I tried a pull up I hung there for longer than I’m proud of, suspended in failure, held up by my own stubbornness. This carried on for a week. PT suggested I used the assisted pull up machine (insert correct name for apparatus); my response was along the lines of how you dare suggest I need help. After a good schooling in how strength is gained, I began using the assisted method and within 6 months I was doing full sets unassisted. For far too long I let myself believe that asking for help was a disclosure of weakness, the truth is it takes a strong person to ask for help and smart person to identify the need.
Believe In Yourself
I read a quote the other day that said ‘You believed in Santa Claus for like 8 years, you can believe in yourself for the next 5 seconds’. Time scales notwithstanding, you have to believe you can get there!
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